Positive Attitude Makes A Difference

Like a little pebble can create ripples in a large pond, similarly Attitude is a little thing which can create big differences in one's life. Your positive attitude towards things in life would help you to achieve even toughest of the goals. Inculcating sincerity, honesty, commitment, dedication & positivity in your attitude can push you towards success, while a negative attitude and approach in life can push you far away from it.

FOMO - Fear of Missing Out

This is a new kind of fear - Fear of Missing Out or FOMO. People often don't want to stay behind anyone. One of my neighbor went for an exotic holiday to Thailand, one of my friend bought the latest version of a sedan, one of my colleagues prepared a very good presentation about a new initiative, one of my colleagues was applauded at office today while no one talked about me. All these are examples of FOMO. Researches suggest that this phenomenon has gained strength during recent past. Researchers are also studying the ways FOMO is influenced by social media. Whatever the reason may be for the rise of this phenomenon but the bottom line is that it leads to fear and causes an increase in depression and anxiety especially amongst young people. In extreme cases this may lead to violence or even feeling of shame. So what is the solution to keep yourself safe from this syndrome?

 

1. Use Social Media Sites Only For What They Are Meant For

 

Social media sites are meant for keeping in touch with old / new friends, family, relatives, colleagues, etc. One needs to understand that while it is good to update about yourself and take updates about others but there is no need to turn into a maniac and over do it.

 

2. Believe In Yourself

 

One needs to have confidence in himself / herself and not always crave for attracting other people's attention all the time. If someone did not talk about you at certain point of time or someone ignored you some time, its alright. There is nothing great to worry about. Your attitude, talent, etc. will bring you in the limelight.

 

3. Learn To Be Satisfied

 

It is important to feel satisfied with whatever you have at certain point of time. Learn to identify that point of time when you need to tell yourself to stop running after stuff and be satisfied with whatever you have at that moment.

 

Hope by doing all of the above you would be able to keep Fear of Missing Out or FOMO away from yourself.

 

How Important Is Setting Right Goals For Success In Life?

I was reading this interesting story of a farmer and his dog. The dog would run after every passing car to some distance and try to overtake it. Obviously due to the high speed of the car, the dog would give up shortly. Once a friend of the farmer asked, "would he ever be able to take over some car"? "I am not worried whether he would ever be able to take over a car or not, rather I am concerned what would he do at all even after he takes over one", replied the farmer.

This is very true even in our lives. It happens often that people start pursuing meaningless goals. However, at a point of time when they don't see any results coming out of that effort, they end up abandoning them. This abandonment does not come alone, it brings along frustration, sadness and a fear of starting anything new, each time. Therefore good choice of goals, before you set them up for yourself and start pursuing, is the key to success.

Take Time To Identify Proper Goals. First and foremost step towards success is to identify appropriate goals in life. This applies for both short term and long term goals. Brainstorm a list of potential goals and take time to compare them based on benefits, your environment, what you want to achieve, etc. (the list of comparison factors can get long though). Eliminate the ones which you think are less relevant or less important or do not look viable. 

Plan To Achieve. Now you have got your list of goals, next step is to plan to achieve them. You will need to plan very carefully and resolve that whatever the results maybe but you will always stick to the plan and would not get deviated from it. There would be odds, some frustrations coming your way but you will need to be strong enough and believe in yourself. You will have to adopt the 'Never Give Up' spirit.

Constantly Remind Yourself Of The Selected Goals. Write down your goals on a paper and pin up at your desk at work, or maybe download some sticky notes software on your computer and write your goals on it. The idea is it to keep the goals constantly in front of you. This will remind you regularly what your goals are and would not let you deviate from your plan for achieving them.

Having done all of the above, you would be sure that you are pursuing the right goals in life. Chasing your goals with the right level of dedication, commitment and persistence would ensure that you get success in life.

Failure - What Is It? 3 Tips To Avoid Failure

Never Fail Yourself

I often think what is Failure, how does it occur, does it occur all of a sudden? I stumbled upon a very interesting article by Jim Rohn about formula of failure and success. Jim says, "Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. We do not fail overnight. Failure is the inevitable result of an accumulation of poor thinking and poor choices. To put it more simply, failure is nothing more than a few errors in judgment repeated every day." 

So if failure is only about few judgmental errors made everyday or the poor choices made by individuals, then why do people keep on repeating these errors. Why wouldn't they choose to improve on things, I mean why would people simply want to fail? One reason, as Jim highlights, could be that the impact of these wrong judgments or poor choices is very small and does not have immediate impact. Failure's most dangerous attribute is it's subtlety. That could be the reason that failure does not occur immediately.  For example if you choose to ignore something important at work and it does not have a big impact immediately you may start feeling that it is alright to do so and then the negative impact may keep accumulating and show in your life one fine day. Similarly, someone may also choose to have bad eating habits or continue to smoke without any immediate adverse impacts. But the negativity will accumulate and have an adverse impact on your life someday.

In addition to above I think one more thing that causes failure is that people, over a period of time, start feeling low of themselves. When one tries to do something and is not able to do it successfully, due to various reasons, he or she starts giving up on it and starts believing that this task is difficult to achieve. This negative belief causes failure. So here are some tips which can be followed to avoid failure.

1. Introspection

Try to introspect yourself. The best time to introspect your daily activities is at night before going to bed. Think about the actions you took or the judgments or the decisions that you made in the day. Think were you reasonable enough while taking these actions or making these judgments or could have there been any better course of action? When you ask questions, you get answers. Don't ignore any answer that indicates anything negative irrespective of whatever the quantum of negativity it might carry.

2. Discipline & Time Management

Try to bring a discipline in your life that whatever improvements you had thought from your introspection, you would implement those in your life going forward. Leading a disciplined life and managing your time well will help you to avoid any kind of subtle negative impacts leading to failure.

3. Take Control

Never forget that it's your life and you should have it's control. No negative thoughts or feelings should control your life. Always believe that you are strong enough and can achieve anything in life. Resolve that you will not give up until you achieve whatever you want in your life even if lot of hurdles or problems come your way.

7 Reasons People Don't Dream Big

Dream Big

An important ingredient for getting success in life, is to dare to dream big. When people see big dreams they set goals for themselves in life. Added to this if people continue to visualize having achieved those dreams, regularly, the dreams are transferred from conscious mind to the subconscious and then these dreams become flesh and all the forces get busy in realizing these dreams. Often people fail to realize their dreams or don't dare to dream big. There are certain possible reasons for people not being able to achieve their dreams or afraid of seeing any dreams.

1. Unclear Dreams

People often set unclear and incomplete goals for themselves. They don't define their objectives properly and that is the reason for them being unable to realize their dreams. People set incomplete objectives like someone wants to become an author but don't drill down to deep levels like what kind of writings, what genre, etc., etc.

2. Underestimating Yourself

People often underestimate themselves. They fear to believe or sometimes they don't know that they have endless abilities. They fail to understand that if they determine to achieve something and train their conscious mind and subconscious to achieve it, they would be able to do so. That's one of the primary reason why they fail to dream big for themselves.

3. People Don't Stick To One Goal

Some people don't stick to their goals. Today they want to be something and tomorrow they want to be something else. This seriously impacts the persons ability to achieve their dreams. As I said above that the dreams need to be transferred from conscious mind to the subconscious in order for the dreams to become flesh.

4. People Don't Possess Expertise / Skills

One reason that people don't dare to dream big is that they don't possess required expertise / skills in order to realize those dreams. It's really very simple to overcome this. There are lot of courses available out there in the market or online to acquire the required skills for any trade.

5. It's Hard To Achieve Goals

Achieving goals or realizing dreams is not easy. There would be lot or hardships, challenges and obstacles in the journey towards success. But this is not true for those who have prepared themselves to face any kind of hurdles or hardships in the way.

6. Fear of Failure

Sometimes people don't dream big because they are afraid of failure. What they fail to realize is that failures are not a reason for being ashamed, they are rather opportunities to improve and try again with all the energy. Failures don't take anything from you rather they add to your experience.

7. Selfishness

Some people fail to realize their dreams because their dreams are too selfish. Very important to understand here is that every thing in this universe is working towards mutual well being. So every action should be towards adding some value or providing some mutual benefit to others. Till the time the action targets to benefit only one person or one party it would not achieve any results at all. So if you want to realize your dreams those should be targeted to add value or provide mutual benefit e.g. if you sell something which does not provide the desired value to the buyer, nobody is going to buy that product.

If people take care of above points, I think it should not be very difficult for them to dream big and realize their dreams.

Human Mind - Positive Thinking & The Law of Attraction

I Can What I Will To Be

What is the most important asset that humans possess? What is that makes humans special and most powerful on this earth? The answer, without any disagreements, is 'Mind'!! Its the most special asset which differentiates the human race from rest of the species alive on this earth. The possession of mind power enables humans to think, reason and gather knowledge thus making them the most powerful on earth and perhaps in the universe (till any life is discovered on any other planet in the universe!!)

It becomes important here to know how you utilize your brain power. Do you invest enough time and effort to develop this asset? Or do you allow it to sit idle and do nothing with it till the time it becomes totally useless? Its a well known fact that none of the human mind has unlimited potential. It entirely depends upon the individuals to what extent they unleash this potential.

Human Mind and Law of Attraction

In his book 'As a man thinketh', James Allen compares the human mind to a garden. He says: “A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must and will bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed-seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.” In very simple words you will reap whatever seeds you sow. If you sow seeds of positive thinking, good thoughts and gratitude in your mind, you will always see good things happening in your life. However, if you sow seeds of negative thinking, feelings of anger, jealousy and hatred, the same will always reflect in your life. So, what is happening here? The Law of Attraction is in force. 

What is Law of Attraction?

Law of Attraction is universal and applies to each and every individual equally. It specifies that whatever you think about constantly gets attracted towards your life. This means that you attract good things in your life like health, wealth, fun, friends, etc. if you constantly think about and visualize them. But if you think about negative things like poverty, hatred, anger, jealous, etc., the same gets attracted in your life.

In essence, in order to benefit from the law of attraction you will have to continuously keep your mind occupied with positive thinking and good thoughts. You would need to avoid your mind from getting distracted and getting any negative thoughts. I know it’s easier said than done to keep negative thoughts off your mind, but with the help of following tips you can achieve positive thinking.

Take Control of Your Life

First step towards achieving positive thinking is to start believing that you are in control of your life. It’s you who will decide the course of your life. The power of controlling your destiny, the power to build your future lies inside yourself and not anywhere else. You will have to believe that is no force whatsoever which controls you and which does not want to see you enjoying the luxuries of this universe. You will have to believe that if you have something good in life, it’s because you want it to be there. Similarly, if you have bad things in your life it’s there because you knowingly or unknowingly want it to be there. Remember, Law of Attraction is at work. It brings you whatever you think of.

Watch Out Your Thoughts

In order to achieve positive results in life, you will have to be watchful of your thoughts. As per the law of attraction negative thoughts, in any form bring negative effect to your life. So you would always have to think of the things that you want instead of thinking about what you don’t want. For example if you want to be rich than you will have to think and visualize that you have lot of money. Don’t think that you do not want to be poor, just think you want to be rich. The bottom line is do not think at all about things you don’t want.

Power of Association

The people, places, books, etc. you associate with play a very important role. All these have potential to impact your thought process. So it’s always good to have company of good, positive and forward looking people. It’s always good to read good and positive books. It’s always good to read positive, inspirational and motivational sites and blogs. This will help you to gradually remove all the negative thoughts and shape up the life which you actually want.

All of the above will not happen in one night. There is no magic which can happen overnight and change your life next morning. All this will be achieved with your patience and persistence. The current negative mindset you may be in currently will take a sincere effort from your side to give way to positivity. You will have to constantly exercise the above mentioned steps in order to slowly remove the weeds of negative thoughts and make the garden of your mind beautiful with positive, inspired and motivated thoughts. Believe me you this is not very difficult to achieve if you commit to yourself that you will make positive use of your mind to its fullest. And once you have decorated your mind with the positive thinking you will see the course of your life changing towards prosperity, happiness, abundance and fun.

Worry Is Your Big Enemy

I strongly feel that Worry is man's biggest enemy. Worry distracts people and does not let them focus on their goals. So when people start worrying about something going terribly wrong in future, or about their jobs, or about their loved ones, or anything else, they start creating images of such situations in their mind. When the conscious mind visualizes these negative images regularly, it turns them into belief. This belief is then transferred to sub-conscious and ultimately becomes the destiny. There are certainly ways to get rid of worrying. I have personally tried these tips and have found them very effective:

1. Keep Yourself in Present

When you worry you think of future. You start imagining things going wrong. Your worry becomes big if you relate it to some bad event in the past. So a good thing to do is to keep yourself busy in present day rather than thinking too much about the past or the future.

2. Tell Yourself That You Are Strong and Powerful

Whenever a worry or fear of something bad strikes your mind, tell yourself that you are strong and powerful enough to face any bad situation. Tell this repeatedly to yourself without thinking anything else. Practice this regularly and you will see that over a period of time you get rid of all your worries.

3. Ask Yourself - How Many of Your Worries Actually Turned Into A Reality?

A very interesting fact is that most of the things that you worry about in your life do not happen at all. So whenever there is a worry coming your way, just think what damage did a worry cause you last time? This way you would be challenging all your worries and force them to leave your mind and life for good.

4. Focus On the Solution, Don't Think About The Outcome

If you find yourself in a difficult situation, don't let any kind of fear or worry take over your mind. Just focus on the solution to make things better instead of thinking about the outcome. If you focus on finding a solution the final result would be in your favor  But if you keep thinking about the outcome, your mind would be occupied by worries of things going wrong in all probability. Focusing on finding a solution or working in small steps towards the solution would help you to come out of the mess and lead you to success.